
Every hydrogen atom on Earth is exactly the same as every other hydrogen atom on Earth and the same as those hydrogen atoms 20 million years ago. Each atom has the same number of electrons, the same atomic weight, and so on. Humans cannot be described this way. You could randomly choose 1 million people across Earth and sort them on any given number of characteristics (hair color, personality, tooth decay – does not matter); you will never get two people with the exact same level of characteristics.
Shrek, yea that Shrek – the one we all love so dearly, describes ogres as onions – “Onions have layers. Ogres have layers.” You want others to understand that you are not a simple person that can be described with convenient labels (even though we try!). There is more to you than just being a mother or a sports fan or an introvert.

You would never describe yourself in such extreme language. Do you make your bed in the morning? Yes or No? This is an impossible question to answer because you never make your bed every single day. Are you extraverted? Yes or No? How can you answer this question without stretching the truth?
Let me explain using an example. Conscientiousness is defined by paying attention to detail, planning ahead, following rules, tidiness, and meeting deadlines. I consider myself to be very conscientious. I do make my bed most mornings, clean the dishes and kitchen every night and pick up in the living room. My car is always immaculate, because I never know when I will need to give someone a ride. Yet, my office is a wreck! I have books and papers stacked haphazardly and my file drawer is not very organized. I pay close attention to detail and make few errors on projects. However, that attention to detail and quest for perfection means that I often miss deadlines or am late on completing projects! Therefore, I can’t say that I am conscientious in an absolute sense. Comparatively, I am more conscientious than not and probably more so than most other people. But, it depends on other factors:

The true/false dichotomy does not reflect reality. This is an absolute. Instead – you want measures that capture the nuances of our personality. You may not always feel like being the life of the party, and if not, why should you be forced to select the word “true”? There are personality assessments that use relative rating scales that better match the real world. Click the AOE-P image below to try out a demo:
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